Reflection

I am a big reflector, meaning I naturally look back over my interactions to reflect what I could have done different and what I can learn. I find that this helps me to grow as a person, helps in my private practice, in my studies, in all areas of my life.

It's funny how lessons come up or rather the universe has a way of reminding you of lessons.

Recently I was assisting a young person through something that was significant for them that invoked feeling of embarrassing, shame, and feelings of being hurt. I assisted with the practicality of next steps whilst providing emotional support.... 

I felt drawn to come back to this person to revisit our conversation - I told them that they are not alone, that every person on the planet makes mistakes, does things they're not proud of or they feel ashamed of, or wish they hadn't done. We all have this in common because we are here living a human life on this planet. This is actually how we grow and learn. It’s okay to make mistakes, everybody makes them! I told this person not to focus on the thing they didn't get right, but to focus on what they had learnt from the experience. 

I can’t get this support when I was growing up, there wasn’t encouragement to be okay with getting things wrong. The messages I received were around being stupid which increased my embarrassment and feelings of shame. As a result, I am super tough on myself, I am a work in progress! Aren’t we all.

The next time you don’t get it quite right, don’t be so tough on yourself. Instead, be supportive remind yourself that this is how you learn and grow. We all make mistakes.

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